I was out shopping the other day for a new nursing bra at one of the local maternity stores. As I was shopping I wandered over to the nursing shirts. For the most part I usually do the 2 shirt method, wearing a cami I can pull down and then whatever shirt over.
Anyway, so in walks a pregnant mom looking for her first nursing bra to take with her to the hospital. One of the women who work there offers to help. The woman tells her this is her first baby and the sales woman begins to help her. She shares with the new mom that she has 3 kids and she nursed them all. They chit chatted and tuned out. Then I hear the WORST advice I have ever heard anyone give a mom to be. “The first few days are maybe a little weird but after that it is just as beautiful as you hear.” I had to stop myself from interrupting. Seriously.
Don’t get me wrong, breastfeeding is beautiful and I wouldn’t pass up the experience that my daughter and I are getting. But for her to say the “first few days are weird” that is a flat-out lie! I would venture to say probably the first 3-5 weeks are really rough. Your body is regulating, hormones are going all crazy again, you’re trying to find the right latch, you and your baby are just simply trying to figure this whole breastfeeding thing all out. Then things start to calm down.
That doesn’t include the painful clogged duct I got months in, or the yeast infection on my nipples, or mastitis that a lot of new moms get. Breastfeeding is a journey and a lot of the time you’re learning as you go.
My son went to the NICU from the moment he was born and I wasn’t brought into see him until the following morning. He had been bottle fed several times and screamed bloody murder when I tried to put him on my breast. After trying, crying and wanting to die we decided it wasn’t going to work.
With my daughter she was brought to me immediately and we began. She latched and so began our breastfeeding journey.
No, I’m not one of those moms that is super judgey if you don’t breastfeed. I understand that it just simply doesn’t work for some women, or their babies. But, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I do believe it is far more nutritional than formula will be able to mimic and can be the best “food” for your baby.
My breastfeeding must have’s –
- A good nursing pillow (I used the boppy)
- A comfortable nursing bra (don’t go fancy momma – I promise you will want comfort most)
- Disposable nursing pads (a big box)
- Lanolin (I used this quite a bit in the beginning)
- A breast pump (mostly if you’ll be returning to work or, if you decide to pump and feed instead of directly nurse your baby.)