You: “I’m Offended!”
Me: “Are you ‘really’ offended?”
Okay seriously people, this is one of those things that gets under my skin. I believe people have lost all understanding of the difference between being offended and having an opinion on something. READ: Pet Peeves
It’s like people feel that by saying they are “offended” rather than “I don’t agree with that” or just simply that they “don’t like it” that it makes it seem more important. Or that they have a supreme right for you to change what it is you are saying or doing because it “offends” them.
One of my favorite things to say when I hear this…
“Well, I’m offended that you’re offended!”
If you’re saying that you feel offended by.. let’s say my political preferences – then I’m offended that you are offended by that. So there ya go! Is it that they think by saying they are in fact offended by something that it closes the opportunity for discussion? Possibly because truly discussing the topic is something they are not capable of? Or they aren’t up to date on it enough to hold a conversation?
Truly, we are considering tearing down monuments and changing the names of schools and streets that have been around for decades because now all of the sudden too many people are offended because the monument is of a man who once owned slaves. Or the school was names after someone who once owned slaves. Is it really that it is offensive? Does this mean we should re-write history books as to not contain these individuals so we don’t upset students?
No, history is just that. History. We can not re-write it. We learn about it so we don’t repeat it. There is nothing wrong with the names of schools and streets and there is nothing wrong with the monuments that have been around forever.
I’m dying to know what it is about being offended that has everyone jumping to this conclusion verses… anything else. Anyone know?
I’m sure it is quite possible that this blog will offend someone on some level.
It seems as though we are either too afraid to tell the truth because we don’t want to offend someone or that we are not capable of expressing the truth. That or it ends up being the complete opposite. We are possibly overly vocal on a topic and don’t know when to hit the breaks.
Be open to conversation and open to others opinions. This doesn’t mean you have to change who you are or what you believe. Be educated on all aspects of a topic.